permasalahan

ok, i know, i promised a permasalahan yesterday, but in the end it was me who had some password issues. anyway, it's official now, i can't get through my own myspace account. (mind u, this is already my second account. LOL)

now back to permasalahan sebenar.

background :

Zufa* is my ex-schoolmate. Ziana* is the current ex-gf (gf of 4 and a half years). Nad* is the once-ex-gf-now gf of Zufa (the gf before Ziana). Zufa n Ziana has been staying together for the past 5 years. and not without Ziana playing around with some other guys. and Zufa still stayed on.

problem :

now they've separated and both parties apparently have new partners. before this, when some problems arised between them, Zufa couldn't let Ziana go, coz apart from being sexually convenient for the both of them, Ziana did threatened Zufa that she would tell his mother about them staying together. ZUfa's parents would be more than devastated coz this is obviously not Zufa's first 'case'. So Zufa rather not have Ziana telling his parents about his bersekedudukan story.


anyway, after so much trouble faced by Zufa (and that includes paying off the people Ziana conned because she was caught by the police, paying off Ziana's so called anemic treatment in hospital, rumah terbakar and Ziana didn't even helped him (despite they were staying together) just because Ziana's going out for a sexcapade with a pilot whom she said she would kikis harta laki itu, and pay off their debts, and on-going fights), they eventually separated coz now Zufa had the courage to let her go since he has rekindled with his old flame.


ok, this separation is still not without an extortion of the worst kind. Ziana is so known for this. She wanted Zufa to fund her travelling expenses to New Zealand so that she could be with her new bf. Because if Zufa does not comply to her demands, she would go to his parents and blurt all out.

my advice is/was :

dont pay the ex-gf at all. after all she has caused so much trouble all these years. this could never be the end of her threats. he is going to eat from her palms (adakah pepatah ini? hehe) like forever if he complies to her demands.

but what he did was :

agreeing in buying her the tickets to NZ so that she could be with the new bf. but before that, he already bought a ticket to Kuching for Ziana coz apparently the bf now is in Kuching before going of to NZ. (what kinda shit is this la kan?)

his fear(s) is/are :

his parents would know and might just killed him for all the trouble Ziana has caused them (him and the family). he wants to live happily with Nad now, but he is afraid the mom would against his new affection. coz his first case was actually engaging sexual behaviour with a minor then (Nad was underage) and both parents knew this and he had to sign some kinda agreement back then. (ok, enough on that)

points given were :

ignore all kinds of threats from his stupid ex-gf and move on. and when she has to go to his mum, Zufa should actually come clean with his mom. Well, because i think despite all the things he has done, his mom would never disown him. So, rather then be caught in a lifetime extortion, baik confess aje to his parents. betul tak?

points taken then:

none. to be pondered or embraced when the next extortion falls onto his lap. ade ke patut?

my issue now :

what do u guys think? dont u think that he should just confess to his parents and once and for all shut Ziana out of his life? Dont u think that Ziana would ugut him all his life with whatever secrets she might have of him? and how do i convince this friend of mine? despite him wanting me to listen and give solutions, he obviously takes no heed whatsoever from what i've said.

but anyway, apehal aku lak yg pening2 ni? huhu. am a concerned sweetheart. that's what i am.

so friends, do give your nilai 2 sen (two-cents worth?) ok?

sekian, good night. i am talking to chuck palahniuk tonight ;)

(thanx shake!)

*disclaimer : nama2 di atas bukanlah nama sebenar. tp situasi berkenaan adalah based on a true story